Loose Your Inhibitions And Enjoy Your Sex Life

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by Jovanka Ciares  

Your mind is the biggest and most important sexual and sensual organ you have. Your mind and soul play a primary role in the physical aspect of your sexual life, as much as on the social, cultural, and religious part. Let me explain. As soon as you are old enough to feel sexual desire, you realize that everything around you in the modern world starts to speak to you about sex. Manufacturers, advertisers, and the media bombard you with instant gratification products that will make you more popular among your friends or will help you make new ones. From the time you are 12 or 13 years of age you may be in a race to have the prettiest clothes, the smoothest skin, the thinnest body, and the adoration of all of those around you.

As we get older, it becomes more obvious that the product world and the media want to attract you as a loyal customer. The approach is, in essence, the same: buy their product, and you will feel happier, richer, healthier, sexier, and more confident than ever before. Everyone around will see the change in you, and love will inevitably follow. How do they package their products and services? Why with pictures of the most gorgeous people as well as subliminal messages to attract you.

Sex is part of who you are as a human, as a woman, and as a member of society. That is why it appeals to you. We are all sexual beings. It is part of what it means to be human. Yes, your body is a temple that you must treat with the utmost respect. Part of respecting your body involves knowing and trusting it. You must nurture it as much as you do your soul.

Many of us grew up with mixed feelings about sex. You may have grown up thinking that engaging in sex before marriage is a mortal sin that will ensure an eternity of hell. Some of you may have suffered trauma or abuse which often leads to poor body image and difficulty enjoying sex. For others, the process may have been a bit less traumatic. Even when married, though, many women have problems opening up about their sexuality and enjoying sex with their husbands. Why? Because it is hard to get rid of years of conditioning about the evils of sex that once you finally do it, it is hard to enjoy it. The lack of education, however, along with the pain and/or confusion about sex probably left you feeling uneasy for many years.

The reality of the matter is that sex is an integral part of our lives from the time we are teenagers to almost the moment we die. Seeking professional help will help you heal past hurtful experiences and make peace with this aspect of your life. Otherwise, always try to keep an open mind and educate yourself. Challenge any position you encounter. If you have made an informed decision to stick to the values and views learned as a child, I commend you for it.

As we get older and develop our own characters, opinions, values, and morals, we also become more in touch with our sexuality. At this point, you should start making informed decisions (and please, inform yourself) about sex and what role it will play in your life. You may wish to engage in sexual relationships more or less often, or explore wider realms of pleasure with one or more partners. Alternatively, you may think that sex is a spiritual experience to be shared only with your soul mate.

Whatever your decision, it should be yours and only yours until such time as you wish to share it with your partner. If you make a wise, educated, and un-coerced decision, be at peace. No decision is right or wrong, and no decision is unchangeable; they are simply yours. It is as different and unique as you are. It is your body, your right, your responsibility, your life.

About the Author

Jovanka Ciares is a life coach, motivational speaker and author who teaches women the attitudes, behaviors and skills that they need in order to reach their fullest potential by using the unlimited power that lies within each of them. She participates in conferences and conferences all over the United States and Latin America. She's the author of "Don't Blame Eve" and offers tons of free advice on her website at www.self-improvementwoman.com.